In this compelling and provocative new book, Brad DeHaven finally shines a light into the darkness of addiction, and the jagged abyss that swallows tens of thousands of families a year…. After reading this book, you’ll better understand what’s at stake for our nation and our society.
– Congresswoman Mary Bono Mack
A Suburban Father’s Journey into his Son’s Oxy Addiction
Defining Moments—A Suburban Father’s Journey Into His Son’s Oxy Addiction is a true story narrated by Brad, a middle-aged financial planner, husband, and father of two. It is 2008, and he waits in a parking lot to complete a drug deal. He’s got Oxycontin, and the two young people he’s meeting have money to exchange for it.
Going from present to past and back, the story reveals his life to this point: His relationship with his abusive step-father, his departure from home at the age of fifteen, and his struggle to stay afloat despite the crazy life of street fighting and drug use that was going on around him. He also recollects his relationships with his brother, who was arrested and incarcerated for dealing cocaine in the early 1980s, and his biological father, a con man and alcoholic.
The deal is intended to save his son’s life, and while it appears to be successful, enables disastrous immediate consequences. Ultimately, however, it leads to the healing of an entire family.
This story has drama and action, but it also has some real education: The drugs today’s addicts consume are found in our medicine cabinets and prescribed to us and our children by our doctors. Addiction to these powerful “legal” drugs can lead even the most aware suburban families down a path they never saw coming—towards theft, prostitution, heroin, prison, and, too often, death.
I have read over twenty books in the addiction genera but this book wins in my category. The story begins by creating a plot which is fairly unusual for an addiction memoir but exciting. I will not give away the plot but what the father did in order to keep his son out of jail is the craziest thing I have ever heard of. Some might call him the ultimate enabler, but what the author did for his son and the way the book sets up what the father did makes for a read that will keep you turning pages. The reason I titled this review “Beautiful Boy and My Friend Leonard Mixed” is because the story is from the father’s point of view (Beautiful Boy) and “My Friend Leonard” because the story is bizarre but believable.
– Author of Intervention: Anything But My Own Skin